Do you ever find yourself explaining to someone that you can’t eat something?
Maybe it’s when you are offered something decadent, like a piece of birthday cake. Or when someone wants to order something not so healthy for lunch. Or maybe someone just mentions a particular type of junk food that really pushes your buttons and you find yourself saying, “Oh that sounds so good, but I can’t eat that.”
Sure, we’ve all said it. But what if that perspective is a problem? What if we are potentially keeping ourselves in a negative place that might inhibit our success with our health and fat loss goals?
With Halloween candy, Thanksgiving Pie, and Hannukah/Christmas feasts 😉 just around the corner, it’s critical that we remove this “deprivation” mindset out of our toolkit.
My girlfriend and I have a habit that we practice around our community and I think it has a lot of value for us all around, not just when we’re trying to set a good example.
We try to never say the words “I can’t eat that.”
Why? Well, first of all, it’s a lie. As it turns out, we are both adults and we can eat whatever we want at any time. Telling those around us that we CAN’T eat pizza, for example, is just not true.
To tell our community that we can’t eat something would give them the impression that 1) we are being forced to follow someone else’s rules, and 2) we really wish we could have it, but woe are we, we simply can’t! Oh, the agony!
In reality, we are doing something that WE chose to do. Nobody has ever made us eat this way and nobody ever will. Furthermore, we don’t value junk food so we aren’t being deprived of anything. And therein lies the magic.
If you are constantly telling yourself that you CAN’T have things, you are subtly reminding yourself that what you are doing is a burden.
“This healthy lifestyle stuff? Yeah, it’s horrible, but I HAVE to do it and I CAN’T eat what I want because I dislike my body just slightly more than I dislike living this way.”
Does that sound to you like the path to success?
You can chalk all this up to semantics if you like, and you can pretend that how you talk to yourself doesn’t matter, but I can’t imagine anyone actually believing that she could create health, vitality, and (thereby) attractiveness with self-coaching like this.
Mindfully intervene. Change your inner dialogue. It’s important.